Focus on Simplicity

So, this morning I found out that I’m pregnant. Being 25 years old, married, running my own lifestyle coaching firm, and now planning to be a mom…I’m definitely feeling the challenges of work-life balance!

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John and I spoke this morning on how we want to raise our baby, especially during the early stages. I can’t tell you how many people I know who have spent so much money on their little ones.  The baby business is a billion dollar business. Check out this great book, Parenting, Inc where the author exposes the truth about the baby business.

We’ve decided that simplicity is the way to go. Not just with having a baby, but also the way in which we live our life. We only drive one car, we budget every dollar using YNAB, and we live with less clutter in our house.

Excerpt of The Power of Adversity

Here’s an except of my new book, The Power of Adversity. Grab your free kindle here!

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Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.

—Margaret J. Wheatley

We are into the second stage now, which is gaining the wisdom to move forward. Motivational speaker Brian Tracy likes to say every skill is learnable. There is no one smarter or better than you. Some people simply learn and develop more skills than others, and the skill of self-reflection is absolutely essential when gaining wisdom in your life. This should be the very first skill that you develop when you begin to gain wisdom.

4 Keys to Success

When you think about success, what comes to mind?

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I recently wrote an article for SUCCESS.com about exploring your own definition of success. In this article I ask you 4 specific questions that will help in establishing your own definition of success.

Success can have so many different definitions. In this post, I’m going to share with you the 4 keys to building success. Before you read forward, you must understand that success can only be achieved when you put everything you learn into action. Reading personal development articles will not make you successful. You must use the wisdom that you learn and implement into your life.

Happiness and success are interconnected. Before you can achieve true success, you must be happy with where you are. Here’s a quote from my mom, “If you’re not happy with where you currently are, you’ll never be happy.” 

I recently shared my 3-part method to achieving happiness on WBTV Charlotte. You can check out the video segment here.

 

How To Decompress In The Evening

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the word decompress is defined as, “to release or reduce the physical pressure on something”

Maria Blon, a colleague of mine shared with me the struggle of slowing down in the evenings. Maria is an international speaker and recently published her book, Living Passionately. She is definitely not alone when it comes to the challenge of slowing down. I’ve struggled plenty of time with not knowing how to decompress in the evenings.

If you’re like Maria, you may find the balance between work and life a challenge. Modern women today experience the struggle of having to do everything and do it well. It’s as if we place this invisible expectation on ourselves.

Here are 5 ways to decompress in the evenings:

  1. Plan your weekdays the Sunday prior. Get out your calendar and schedule your upcoming week every Sunday evening. Add all the appointments, errands, and activities that you need to accomplish throughout the week.
  2. Nourish your soul. Whether it be 10 minutes or 30 minutes, give yourself the gift of nourishing your soul. This can be walking in nature or reading a personal development book. Let your family  know that you have “Me Time” in the evenings.
  3. Focus on the vital few and ignore the trivial mini. The reason why women experience so much burnout is because we’re so focused on the tiny tasks throughout the day that by the time we finish the day, we are left exhausted. It’s time to start shifting your focus from the trivial mini to the vital few. Think about high priority tasks that will lead to positive long lasting results. This can be writing a book, earning an MBA, or reading.
  4. Learn to delegate. I’ll be hiring a VA in the next month because of the admin work that takes up a lot of my time. Learn to delegate tasks and activities that you find boring or challenging to accomplish. Focus on executing your strengths and passions.
  5. Unplug from your technological toys. I have a policy in the Mason home that John and I turn off all technological devices in the evenings. By the time John gets home, we turn off our phones and laptops. This causes us to enough each other’s company and spend quality of time with each other without getting distracted by emails or phone calls.

Being able to decompress in the evenings is definitely not easy.  But being able to unwind in the evening is absolutely essential in your development and growth.

Self-Love and Marriage

How much self-love do you experience on a daily basis?

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Because human beings are instinctually stimulated to danger, it’s easy for us to focus on the negative in our life. Ever received a negative comment and it ruins the rest of your day?

I remember consulting with a business woman who specializes in web development and marketing. She took a look at my website and only said negative remarks. Once I got off the phone, all I could think about was her negative comments. I thought about it all day and found myself talking about it to John later that evening.

Throughout our day, we tend to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Self-love is a topic that tends to get pushed to the side when stress of the day-to-day activities occur.

It’s been a hectic few weeks trying to write my new book, work with a publisher for The Power of Adversity, and interviewing participants for my lifestyle project. Because I have so much to do with the business, I haven’t been spending as much time as I would like with self-care and nourishing my soul. This results in feelings of irritation and overwhelm.

I’m so excited to be presenting my Lifestyle Design workshop at the 2015 Wellness Retreat in Albany, NY. In this workshop, I’ll share my 3-part method to overcoming adversity and designing a meaningful life.

Date: April 17, 2015
Time: 8:30am-9:30a.m
Appearance: Lifestyle Design Workshop
Outlet: 2015 Wellness Retreat
Location: Albany, NY
Format: Other

I’m so excited to be presenting my Lifestyle Design workshop at the 2015 Wellness Retreat in Albany, NY. In this workshop, I’ll be sharing my 3-part method to overcoming adversity and designing a meaningful life. If you’re an Empire State College student, the admissions to this event is FREE! Be sure to come and say hello!

Date: April 17, 2015
Time: 8:30-9:30a.m.
Event: 2015 Wellness Retreat
Topic: Lifestyle Design
Venue: Hilton Hotel
518-462-6611
Location: 40 Lodge Street
Albany, NY 12207
United States
Public: Private